Duality fills reality with suffering because the most effective defense for the fiction the self is real, is suffering. If the self doesn’t exist, and reality provides the setting in which the dreamers in this dream defend the fiction it does exist, then suffering is the price the dreamer pays for defending a fiction as if it is a fact. If anything is ‘astonishing’ in this dream, it is how much suffering the dreamer is willing to endure in defense of the lie the self will prove it is a ‘real person’ in this dream. In the extreme, obviously, ‘we’ are willing to die for the lie the self is real. Defending the lie the self is real is “The Main Event” in this dream.
If everything can only be content in this dream, then defending the lie the self is real defines how the dreamers fill time in the dream. Once this comes into focus, you are awake enough to observe the connection between degree of duality, determination to prove the self is real, and degree of suffering. In my work, I get to witness the full range of duality, from almost none, to the total commitment to the fiction it is real. The more the dreamer defends the lie the self is real, the more it suffers. Suffering goes with defending the lie the self is separate from everyone and everything. If is is true, ONENESS is the truth, then there is no such thing as separation, and the defense of a fiction as a fact shows up as suffering.
One intriguing question is, does the dreamer know, upstream of amnesia, that duality doesn’t exist, and it can create the level of suffering it needs to defend the fiction ‘a suffering self will qualify as a real self?’ If ONENESS is the truth, meaning IT is what everything and everyone is, then the dreamer must know, at some pre-conscious level of knowing, that the defense of the lie the self is real depends on ‘The Defection Parody.” If ONE is all there is, then it would have to be the ONE that dreams the dreamers engaging in “The Defection parody” to create the level of suffering the dreamer requires to engage in “The Victim Parody.” What this says, if this is true, is that there is no one to suffer if everything can only be content in the dream the ONE is dreaming. The dream features the dreamers defending the lie the self is real in the dream mind (the ONE) is dreaming.
What this says is ‘right now’ is the dream mind is dreaming, and that’s all ‘right now’ is, or can ever be. There is no ‘real reality,’ only this dream mind is dreaming, featuring the dreamers defending the lie the self is real with the suffering that goes with defending the lie duality is real.
This is a testable assumption. What any dreamer in the dream can do is identify how much duality it creates in this dream to use the suffering that goes with defending this lie, to defend the fiction, ‘a suffering someone is a real someone.’ In my work, no client can do this until they first identify how much duality they create to fill time with the level of suffering they require to engage in “The Victim Parody.” No dreamer can engage in “The Victim Parody,” convincingly, unless he or she creates the suffering that goes with defending the lie duality is real, first. Waking up in the dream always includes seeing this applies to how the client fills time with the creation of duality. Amnesia makes it difficult to see this clearly, but when ‘waking up’ begins, the client gets a peek at how much it relies on duality to create the level of suffering it requires in the dream to do PERSONhood convincingly.
Once a dreamer owns how it relies on duality to create suffering, it is set free to observe that this is “The Main Event” in our reality. Everyone displays how much duality they create to create the level of suffering he or she requires to play the part of a ‘real person’ who has a ‘damaged self.’ In zero duality, the dreamer knows no level of suffering can prove it is a real, not okay person, because ‘right now’ can only be a mind generated dream. It is in the dream minus suffering. The more a dreamer requires suffering to defend the lie ‘a suffering self is a real self,’ the more it fills time with duality.
At low levels, duality is comedically obvious, but as duality increases, comedy turns into tragedy, especially when duality shows up as violence, abuse, and destruction. The range of duality between ‘kindness,’ for example, and ‘genocide’ is startling, but the culprit is always the connection between duality, suffering and defending the lie the self belongs to a ‘real person.’
All the dreamers share the same problem: because ‘right now’ can only be the dream mind is dreaming, the option for any dreamer in this dream to prove it is a ‘real person’ is zero. Our status in the dream exists as a constant: once a dreamer, always a dreamer because if ‘right now’ is the dream mind is dreaming, there are no people, and not even duality, and the suffering that flows from this lie can revoke the fact that truth is absolute. Duality is what the dreamers in this dream create to create the suffering the dreamer in the dream requires to defend the lie ‘a suffering self is a real self.’ If anything is astonishing, it is the fact the lie the self is real depends on the suffering that stems from the fiction duality is real.
When I work with a client, I pay attention to how much they use events in the past in the dream to create the story they rely on to engage in “The Victim Parody.” If the dream is always what ‘right now’ is, then that was true when the dreamer was ‘a child’ in the dream, all the way to this moment ‘right now.’ The dream is never not ‘on,’ meaning it is what ‘right now’ is, and it displays the level of duality the dreamer in the dream requires to defend the fiction the self they have was damaged by events in the dream. This is a parody in this dream because if this is a dream, it never included people, only dreamers who create duality to create suffering to prolong the fiction ‘a suffering self is a real self.’
The lie the self is real depends on the lie duality is real. Proof for this shows up as the dreamer’s reluctance to modify the story it relies on to maintain the fiction it has a ‘damaged self.’ What no dreamer wants to remember is that there is no one to have any kind of a self if ‘right now’ can only be the dream mind is dreaming. Dreamers know, at some preconscious level of knowing, that not even suffering can prove the self is real, which gives them carte blanche to make suffering the centerpiece in their PERSONhood parody. Dreamers posing as people with a ‘damaged self,’ beg for relief from their suffering, but not if giving it up means they have to surrender to the fact there are no people because ‘right now’ can only be the dream mind is dreaming.
Duality features the story the dreamer uses in the dream to defend the lie it has a ‘real self,’ and it was okay until events damaged it. The truth is, there is no one to have any kind of a self if ‘right now’ is the dream mind is dreaming. It takes a dualistic story to maintain the fiction the self is real, and it is ‘damaged.’
For example, if everything can only be content in this dream, then no one had ‘good’ or ‘bad’ parents. If this is a dream, there never was anyone to be any kind of a parent. The dreamer in the dream uses events in the dream to defend the fiction the dreamers called ‘parents’ were ‘real people’ who treated the dreamer like a ‘loved person,’ or not. Once the dreamer locks into the story it uses to defense the fiction ‘right now’ is real, and not a dream, it defends the fiction the self is real with the story it occupies in the dream. When a dreamer tells me the self they have was ruined by a ‘bad mother,’ I know how much they depend on this story to defend the fiction the self is real because the one they have is ‘damaged.’ Since mind is dreaming this dream in its entirety, there is no one to have any kind of a self, which makes the story the dreamer relies on “The Main Event” in its life in this dream. A dreamer has to act damaged in the dream to prolong the fiction the self is real and the one it insists it has was ‘damaged by a bad parent,’ with a ‘damaged self’ to prove it.
Since this dream can’t include people, it is fascinating to witness how ‘the members in a family’ work as a team to share a group story that supports duality to prolong the fiction the dreamers in the family are all damaged to some degree. The web of this intrigue is amazing, ornate and one long ‘self fulfilling prophecy.’ No one engaged in this ‘group parody’ is ready to blow the whistle on the story the group shares in common in the dream, and if one member of the group wakes up to the truth, all hell breaks lose. The defector from the drama is often ostracized as ‘a traitor to the cause.’
when a dreamer wakes up in the dream, what comes into focus is how all the members of the family work as a team to prolong the story they rely to defend the fiction ‘right now’ includes people, and almost all of them fill time defending the lie the self they insist they have is ‘damaged.’ You can trace the origin of this mythology back through several generations of dreamers in this dream. In one family, men were kept in place as ‘villains’ for five generations, right up to the present moment in the dream.
“The Recovery Process” is the name of the work I do. It involves assisting dreamers in the dream to reconnect with the dualistic story they occupy to prolong the fiction duality is real, and reiterated suffering will prove the self is real, if not today, then sometime in the future. No dreamer in this dream has any chance to prove it is a person, no matter how much time it devotes to the fiction the self it insists it has is damaged. If ‘right now’ can only be the dream mind is dreaming, then there are no people to have any kind of a self, and duality is viewed accurately as ‘the trick’ dreamers rely on to do PERSONHOOD believably in the dream.
It is amazing to witness a dreamer wake up to the truth ‘right now’ can only be a dream, there are no people, and duality can’t prove a ‘real person’ has a self. I get to witness the look of ‘astonishment’ every week, and it is fun because at that moment, we both know we are in this deal together.
